And the power has shifted…..

Power is a wonderful thing to have. Power: ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something. Control is good for some but others want nothing to do with it. Control:to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command.

I know that my readers do not need an English lesson but the topic of this post had me grasping for the proper word to employ. Power won. Ability, accomplishment, those two words infer nothing but positive energy and that is all I need at this point in my life.

If you have read my previous posts, then you are aware that I contacted my lost love. I didn’t know how I was going to feel in the days following that contact and that is the purpose for this post. I feel empowered. I feel like I am able to look at things through the panoramic lens (which is how we should always envision our life).

He hasn’t attempted to contact me which could mean one of two things. It could mean that he is on such a high horse that he really doesn’t have any feeling left for me whatsoever, but here’s what I think, I think he knows he could never get me back. He knows that I’m gone. He knows that I was a weak soul when he caught me and that I’m too far out of reach for him to be able to capture me. It is ever so easy to catch a bird with a broken wing, but try to capture a peregrine falcon that is swooping at two-hundred miles an hour! Yes, this mare has wings and she’s flying.

I have no regrets for my actions. People in pain are always looking for comfort. The love story now has its ending and it’s an ending that I created, not him. I took the power, I have the conn.

Peace from the Rogue Mare


Porn Star Dancing

Okay, the title has pretty much nothing to do with my writing. I hit shuffle on the old iTunes and that’s the song that was playing when I decided to start typing. Caught your attention though.

I’ve had this urge to write a letter to the one who broke my heart. There’s no way I would ever send it because it would only serve to feed that person’s already over-inflated ego.

I’m going to give you fair warning here and let you know that this is a no holds barred piece. You might come away saying I’m bitter or give me advice to just let it go. Those are great words. Legalizing/decriminalizing marijuana are great words as well, but putting it into action is, well, pretty impossible. I’ll save my marijuana thoughts for another day. Hopefully the DEA won’t come knocking. They would leave sad and empty handed.

Here goes nothin.

To the one who threw me away like garbage:

Our relationship began as a friendship. That’s very important because I felt like you already knew me and I knew you. I knew that you lived with your mom in a trailer that had no air conditioning or heat. I knew that you never even went to middle school because you were too overweight to wear a belt to school. I saw the dead roaches on the counter and saw the mice on the porch. You knew how many times I had been married and the domestic abuse I had survived. You knew that I had two children and that I threw things when I got mad.

Instead of looking at you as someone who was beneath my standard of living, I looked at you as a person who saw what they wanted and went for it. You never knew this, but one day I was taking a nap in your bed and I awoke to overhear you and your mom talking in the kitchen. “Are you sure about that?” “Yes, mom. I’m as sure about her as I am about being a police officer.” It was then that I trusted you completely. You were sure. You were going to be there until the end. I trusted you so much that I poured every penny of my divorce settlement and my retirement into making a home for us. I sold my vehicle. I bought you guns, knives, legos, anything you wanted. I put in a pool, I built a deck, I fenced in our property and fenced a yard for our dogs.

I put up with your mind games. The ones where you demanded that I tell you that I loved you more than anyone I ever loved in my life. The ones where you would talk about how fabulous you were and how every woman on the planet adores you. I watched you admire yourself in every passing mirror you could find. Funny thing is, I was not attracted to you physically. I was attracted to your heart.

I put up with those things because of the way you smiled at me every day. If I wore my hair in braids you would tell me how cute I was. You were always happy to see me. You called me your princess. You loved the lyrics to music the way that I loved them. You saved me from myself sometimes. You taught me to respect myself. You taught me to defend myself. You taught me how to properly handle firearms and I have a pretty tight pattern now. You made me stop throwing things when I get mad, which is your biggest accomplishment yet! When we went to the beach and had bought an umbrella without a “pokey” end, you dug a hole with your hands to make sure I had some shade. You could make the most delicious food out of nothing! You filled a place in my heart shortly after my dad passed away. I thought you were so much like the greatest man I’d ever known. I guess I was wrong.

For some reason, which I assume I’ll never know, you suddenly decided that I was insane. Unfit to live with. You didn’t want me any longer. You broke off our engagement through a text message while you were in the middle of a shift at work leaving me at home to go crazy. Thank heaven for my family and close friends who were there in a flash. They stayed with me until I was ready to go to sleep. Thank God I had somewhere to go because at that point I had no money and no vehicle. I left within three days. I was responsible. I took only what I came with or purchased. I left you with a bed and your beloved guns and the $800 gun safe that I bought.

Some people say that I over-reacted. That I should have stayed. Stay? With someone who doesn’t want to marry me? You don’t go from engaged and back to “living together”. You don’t get the cow or the milk at that point.

I’ve been told that you still openly discuss the fact that I’m crazy, insane, whatever to people who used to be my friends. I don’t think that’s fair. I don’t know the reason for it. Your niece has said horrible things about me as well. That’s very sad. I remember buying her a beautiful dress and shoes to match for her graduation from high school. I remember taking you, her sister and her to Emeril’s for a lovely dinner after her graduation. What did I get in return? Ugliness from both of you.

I’ll get over the pain one day. I know that I will. I live a good life and I’m happy being where I am now. I just wanted you to know how I feel/felt about you, about us, about how unfair it all seems. Life isn’t fair. I’m on a path to somewhere. Maybe it’s somewhere that I never would have reached if you were in the way. Maybe you’re going somewhere in life that I shouldn’t be. So many maybes. Maybe I’ll never know.

I have no idea how I feel about you now. I don’t think I could ever look you in the eyes and have a conversation. I don’t think I would want to give you the satisfaction of being in my company again. I’m pretty special and I know it. Women are special as a whole. They adapt for their mates, they comfort, they entertain.

Not ending this letter with love or regards. Simply ending it. I may write to you again. I might not.

To all who read this, Peace from the Rogue Mare